One the problems with These Kids Today and their “bigotry in the GLBT community” 

closetospring:

freibiergesicht:

galesofnovember:

is that kids today have have taken to creating new hair-splitting terms of oppression that only exist so that they can they can position GLBT people (and not straight people) as oppressors.

Examples:

• “biphobia” narratives where gay or lesbian people not dating you is the same as Fred Phelps (note: actual quote from douchebag “bi activist”)
• “binarism” narratives in which trans women and trans men are oppressive enforcers of the binary gender system
• “pansexual” as opposed to oppressive, binarist “bisexual”
• “homonormativity” where anyone who doesn’t live in your stupid ~queer~ neighborhood on the coasts. 

And, in reality, these are labels only thrown at gay, bisexual or trans women.  Sure, the ideas of homonormative and assimilationist have been traditionally about the upper middle class gay men who had so much sway in gay rights orgs, but on the internet and in most ~radical~ spaces they tend to be thrown more enthusiastically at boring old lesbians.   

Because sexism and internalized homophobia, not “acephobia” or “bigotry against kinky polysexual dudes” are genuine, lingering problems in queer spaces. Go fucking figure

yeah i mean ok i have experienced legit disgust/disbelief towards bi ppl (ok let’s be honest towards bi MEN because the issue of bi-whatever is heavily gendered but bi women won’t admit it) on spaces online and irl that are primarily populated by gay men and that is stupid and sucky and a real problem but you know ppl like erika moen have made me never want to use the word biphobia again b/c it’s never a nuanced discussion of all the complicated issues surrounding bi-ness as it relates to a larger “queer” community and passing and privilege and identity but instead it’s a bunch of my fellow married-to-men ladies shrieking that gay people are just as mean to them as straight people.  because a group not accepting you is the ultimate tragedy in life, just like high school and the popular girls.  ugh go write a shitty comic in portland, no one else cares.

i mean seriously when you reduce the main ‘biphobic’ arguments they are just inherently homophobic, even if gay people are saying them like sorry for their internalized bullshit but that’s what it boils down to.  there’s a lot of aspects of mainstream gay dude culture that sucks sure enough but it’s a relatively minor issue wrt to how society at large defines you if you fuck/love someone of the same gender.

and the bi vs pan thing i won’t even get into it i will kill someone

homonormativity is like, a concept that sounds kinda relevant for a second until you realize the people shouting against it are even more privileged and stupid and shortsighted as the people they are accusing of it in the first place.  we’re talking about children who literally can’t understand that marriage rights or the repeal of DADT might…slightly intersect with race, class, and immigration status.  not even for a second.

i was thinking about the last paragraph when i read this post. because like, in my experience, people who qualify as ~homonormative~ are often, say, living in rural areas. and someone is not a BAD QUEER because they value that — whether it’s deeply held or also partly as a way to get by in rural/poor places — more than moving to the big city and becoming a radical pomo queer. (which is so funny/sad because wasn’t that one of the critiques of it gets better? guess we’ve moved on from caring about rural/poor people.) and yeah obviously that’s not even going into the privilege of being able to go THIS LEGAL RIGHT DOESN’T MATTER, SMASH THE SYSTEM oh what do we do about all the people who need those rights until we can smash the system? STOP TALKING ABOUT IT HOMONORMATIVE JERK

Fuck straight cis people 

paraphrased:

Fuck straight cis people who think queer pride is for them because they’re ‘abnormal’.

Fuck straight cis people who think queer groups exist to make them feel warm and fuzzy inside and kiss their pseudo-ally asses.

Fuck straight cis people who think we exist to fulfill their sexual fantasies.

Fuck straight cis people who think they can tell us about how the queer community feels or should feel.

Fuck straight cis people who think they can take queer words, queer culture, queer resources, and the queer community from us. You’ve got the whole rest of the fucking world.

This is homophobia just as much as bible-thumping.

(via partysoft)

closetospring:

cheatthis:

abrokenfishbowl:

donricci:

arandus:

fuckin’ yes. I believe in your rights, dont get me wrong, but seriously parading it everywhere gets annoying after a while. Im surprised im still on tumblr with how many times i see this stuff on my dash :|

Honestly, this. This is why things like pridefests and pride parades just, well, annoy me. There is awareness, and then there is ‘so much it’s just really stupid and irritating’, and ‘pride’ has gone way past the dividing line into the bad side.

What they meant: Blah blah blah I’m sick of LGBTQ people actually being proud of who they are instead of hiding it from me!

Okay seriously. Pride exists because queer people are told every fucking day that we are shameful, our existence is shameful, our love is shameful, our community is shameful, every fucking thing we do is shameful, and we need a time to come together and say “No, fuck you, we have absolutely nothing to be ashamed of.

Pride isn’t just about letting straight people know we exist, it’s about showing them that we’re sick of hiding, sick of hating ourselves, and sick of trying to change just so they’ll like us.

When I can go a week without thinking about how much fucking easier my life would be if I could just be straight, without being reminded that there are millions of people out there who think I deserve to die, who will kill me just for who I’m attracted to, when I can go a week without hearing someone complain about how being mistaken for being a lesbian is the worst thing that could happen to them, when kids stop feeling like they’d be better off dead than queer, then maybe, maybe you could say that pride doesn’t have a purpose.

Except even then it will need to exist to celebrate the things we’ve overcome to get there in the first place.

So fuck you.

i’m fine with you being gay as long as i don’t have to know you’re gay

shut up str8ie

Heeeey, OP and everyone going “this this this this this~”? You’re completely fucking terrible, congratulations.

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it is 2012, and sexuality is still fluid 

ivyblossom:

itsinthetrees:

we should not still be having these ‘lesbian finds the RIGHT man’ stories in our fiction

we just should not

Your sexual identity is not a set of steel doors.

I don’t think this is a “find the right man” story at all.

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You are giving Moffat waaaaay too much credit.

Also it’s really not a coincidence that sexual fluidity is almost always portrayed as “lesbian goes for a dude.”

(Source: forebodingflamingo, via partysoft)

"Gay people should not buy into this assimilationist agenda of marriage. By seeking out these heteronormative institutions, they are reinforcing misogynistic and capitalist ideologies and norms…I mean I’m married, but that’s different. It’s for tax reasons." — Straight Tumblr leftists (via confessionsofanautisticboy)

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saltmarshhag:

joetomcollins:

occupythedisco:

I think the reason I find geek culture so obnoxious at times to engage in is because the people are for the most part the same privileged dips that inhabit mainstream culture, but with the added detriment of a victim complex. They’re still largely white and center their race, they’re still largely straight and center their sexuality, they’re still largely cis men who center their gender. They challenge nothing about the status quo and what bodies get to be placed at the center of it, they offer nothing radically different to the typical narratives about which groups of people are and are not important and they can be just as hostile to groups who try to find a place in their space as the mainstream is, in some cases even worse. But for some reason they think the fact that they like Battlestar Galactica instead of Monday night football makes them radical alterna-gods who are too good for this sinful Earth.

Blah Blah Blah… Racism… Blah Blah Blah … gender bullshit.

Geek Culture is “obnoxious” to you because thinking is “work” to you, and FUN for us.

The fact is geeks don’t give a fuck about culture at all. For the most part we were excluded from it by everyone, as your anti-geek bias just goes to show. We’re not even welcome in your little section of hell.

How the fuck can a member of any victimized group dare claim that another group has a “victim complex”? How can you try and throw that proverbial stone and not expect to have your own sins written in the proverbial sands.

The fact is, that Geeks have no race, gender, gender preference, or other social entanglements, and as a result… WE DON’T HESITATE TO CALL YOU ON YOUR BULLSHIT. What’s worse, is that we do it with empirical and undeniable FACTS backed up by logical and reasonable science. That true or false bottom line that doesn’t give a fuck what you “feel” because at the end of the day, our way is the only one that works.

THAT is what has you butt hurt about geek culture. That and the fact that we can do more with our smartphones while we are drunk, than all of you can do together with room full of supercomputers.

You want to be accepted by geek culture? Put in the effort to learn about how things work, or listen to those who do.

As a geek, there is NOTHING cooler than some one who can teach me something I didn’t know, and nothing more obnoxious than some one who criticizes that instinct with absolutely nothing to offer of their own.

The rest of your biases are just that… YOUR BIASES.

Go read a book, bitch.

Oh.

Congrats to the angry geek who just proved OP’s point.

"Using “gay and lesbian” as a phrase that’s supposed to include the whole queer community is like using “he” as a pronoun standing in for all people. In both cases, over half the group is left out." —

Lindasusan Ulrich, Bisexual Invisibility: Impacts and Recommendations (via lavender-labia)

…except men hold structural power over women and pretty much everyone who isn’t a man. gay and lesbian people do not over bisexual people. christ almighty. 

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Yep, and once again people ignore the fact that not everyone wants to reclaim “queer” in the first place.

(Source: bialogue-group, via saltmarshhag)

freibiergesicht:

galesofnovember:

freibiergesicht:

“It’s hard for us to believe what we’re hearing these days. Thousands are losing their homes and gays want a day named after Harvey Milk. The US Military is continuing its path of destruction, and gays want to be allowed to fight. Cops are still killing unarmed black men and bashing queers, and gays want more policing. More and more Americans are suffering and dying because they can’t get decent health care, and gays want weddings. What happened to us?”

—

-Queer kids of Queer Parents Against Gay Marriage (via firesandwords)

Oh just fuck all of this. Seriously.

I hate the military industrial complex as much as anyone. Also, I hate America and the existence of the nation state more than nearly all of tumblr that isn’t douchey-anarcho-dudes. Seriously. I basically am a douchey anarcho-dude, okay.

But fuck this because it really does encapsulate my whole distate for queer identity.   Because “queer” isn’t used as a synonym for trans or same-gender-loving people.  It’s used as a synonym for people who adopt a specific, narrow, and shallow political identity.  And it’s a way to decide anyone who doesn’t fit that narrow political identity is “privileged” even though that’s almost always a load of fucking bullshit, because I bet a milliion billion dollars that the 19 year old pansexuals who wrote this come from much more privileged upbringing than you average queer person in the military.  

For all the bleating about how “wanting health insurance” is a privileged position,  typically the people saying that are kids on their parents health insurance, deriding public sector employees with good union benefits as more privileged than their non-job-having selves.  And really, it’s amazing how much that particular argument echoes that of far-right libertarians, because at its heart it puts public school teachers and dmv clerks in the position of being horribly privileged. 

The shallow conflation of (i think this is what they’re getting at) hate crime legislation with the murder of Oscar Grant is both appropriative and cruel.  The suggestion that all queer people stop advocating for something that is specificly relating to queer people’s issues because issues of poverty are more important is a load of homophobic shit when that expectation is not put on straight people.  As is the idea that queer people (but not straight people) have a responsbility to redefine or destroy straight conceptions of love or marriage or else we’re sellouts or something, because it’s our job fight on the behalf of some bullshit utopia free love movement.

I don’t want to raise my kids in the queer community anyway, or not in that conception of the queer community. 

gosh, I apparently have a lot of feelings. 

Yup.  I jumped on the military thing b/c it is something I can bang out quickly even when I’m fucking seething with rage but the whole quote is super-duper fucked.  And I think the quotes’ use of “gays” vs. “queers” is obviously super-intentional and super-telling re: the narrow bullshit political identity you’re talking about.  Someone who IDs as “gay” = privileged, bad.  ”Queer” = radical, good.  Hey, I wasn’t even aware of this sort of shit since before that tumblr discussion about lesbian and queer identities and now I’m like, oh, this is it in action.  

I swear to god, anyone who reblogs this in agreement gets the automatic unfollow.  (woo internet tough girl).  But seriously, I don’t care if you’re 19 or whatever, if you are so shallow in your understanding of shit politically that you can’t understand that things like marriage benefits or DADT repeal are things that can and do help some of the most marginalized people I don’t even know where to start with you. 

(via saltmarshhag)

fuck queer, i’m a lesbian? 

ineffableshe:

being on tumblr has made me increasingly reluctant to identify as queer. instead, i have become increasingly drawn to reclaiming “lesbian” & “dyke.” because you know what? calling oneself a lesbian shouldn’t be considered passe or inherently “mainstream.” fuck this gay = conventional, uncritical, inherently “ist” versus queer = cutting edge shit.  all the misogyny surrounding female-identifying folks who don’t want to date the men folk or have their ID erased within the umbrella of queer (because admit it, in many ways, “queer” seems to be all about sexual availability to everybody & everybody within that category) is making me sick & i’m done with feeling like i have to disown all the contributions of lesbian culture to feminism & queer spaces.

a longer & more coherent explanation will be written out in my next perzine. stay tuned!

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